It’s really easy to fall into a rut with masturbation. I mean, when you know exactly what you need to get you off, the temptation to stick with a tried and tested routine is strong. I am definitely guilty of this. Usually when I masturbate I switch my vibrator on, zone out and am done in a few minutes. I often treat it like something I am just getting out of the way so I can go to sleep, rather than a fun event of self-care and self-love. If I treated sex with a partner in the same careless way I would be kind of horrified at myself. So why have I been saddling myself with such a boring, thoughtless masturbation technique? Surely we deserve to treat sex with ourselves in a way which is just as important as sex with someone else? After all, we are our own best sexual partners, no one else knows our bodies like us.

So with this in mind I decided that I would incorporate some solo kink into my masturbation routine in order to bring some spark back to my solo sex life. What is solo kink? It’s basically exactly what it sounds like! Playing around with kink without the presence of a partner. I’d never ventured into this realm before, so was excited to get to grips with a new way of experiencing my body. Read on to discover how I had the fanciest wank of all time and get some tips on how you can do something new and nice for yourself next time you indulge in some self-loving.

I started by applying the Cleo Nipple and Clit clamps to myself. A task that would have been easier if I had not just moisturised! Without a partner to keep things steady it was quite the job to get my coconut oil slippy hands to get the clamps on. Handy hint, save your skincare regime for the post-orgasm period (!). After successfully getting the clamps in place, I immediately felt a sense of occasion since I was draped in gold chains and looked regal as fuck. The light pressure on my erogenous zones felt amazing, before I’d even started touching myself I was getting turned on. The thrill of having the slight pain jolt through me without needing someone around to administer it was deeply satisfying. Next I got my vibrator out and rested it gently against the clamp applied to my clit whilst I pulled on the clamps on my nipples. At this point I could probably have come because honestly it felt fucking amazing. But where’s the fun in coming straight away?! Usually when I masturbate I just focus on my stimulating my clit and totally forget that I even have boobs, but the clamps meant that I literally couldn’t forget about them and ensured that I was really in touch with my whole body, instead of just singlemindedly honing in on my clit.

Next I used the  Lilly Fringe Whip  to lightly brush over my thighs, tummy and breasts. This gentle tickling sensation heightened the pleasurable feelings I was experiencing in the other parts of my body and was the kind of sensation I would usually associate with being teased by a partner, so it was novel to experience it alone. After playing around switching between using the Lilly Fringe Whip and adjusting the pressure on the nipple clamps I decided it was time to bring out the piece I was most excited about; the Amelia Pinwheel Necklace. This beautiful, unassuming sun pendant folds out to become a wickedly sharp pinwheel that can be used to roll along the skin for an injection of pleasurable pain.

I started by slowly pushing it across my inner wrists and then my breasts and thighs. When I got to my thighs I felt like I was onto a winner. The combination of the vibrator, clamps across my nipples and clit and the light spiky pain on my thighs was such a fun array of sensations and I began to wonder why I had ever had masturbated in my normal boring way. I played around with the intensity, pushing harder and lighter with the wheel on my skin depending on how much I wanted to push myself closer to coming and then backing away. This was a fun implementation of a little bit of edging which was definitely enhanced by the pinwheel. Highly recommended! (Edging for the uninitiated is where you let yourself get close to coming, but don’t actually come. After doing this a few times, the resulting orgasm is usually stronger and longer than a usual one).

I lost track of time because I was having so much fun, but eventually I realized it was getting late and I had a lot of things to do the next day. So I let myself come and it was fucking amazing to be blunt. In the future I will definitely be making sure to switch up my masturbation habits by incorporating solo kink. It was a really satisfying way to explore my body in a new light, without the presence of a partner. I also think that if you’re nervous about incorporating more kinky objects into your sex life with a partner, then it can really help to get to know how they feel and what you like alone first. So whether solo kink is a stepping stone to partnered kink, or something to just enjoy in and of itself, I can’t recommend it enough.

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