Seasonal Depression and Masturbation

Seasonal depression is a real thing, which can exacerbate already existing mental health issues, and affect how you masturbate. If you’re taking antidepressants, there’s a chance that your medication is also having some effect on your sex drive. Let me tell you: it’s super frustrating when your libido gets left out in the cold.

We know there are so many mental blocks that can put your climax on halt, and they come from all types of influences. Sometimes, it’s something as simple (and yet, WOW, so complicated) as not being mentally “there” in the moment. Even when all the physical signs are pointing to obvious arousal, it might take a stronger push to getchya head in the game.

First of all, let’s address the things we can’t change much in these situations. For instance, it’s winter. It’s going to be winter for a few months, and we’re going to have to deal with some gray skies, chilly winds, and darker days. Unless you live in a climate unaffected by wintry weather (lucky you), this is just something we have to accept.

So what can we do? Well, if a lot of what goes into reaching orgasm is mental, we’ve got to do our best with self-care–which, of course, can certainly include masturbation. It all comes full circle, huh?

Don’t push yourself

First and foremost, don’t get frustrated with yourself if you’re finding it harder to orgasm. Stressing out about gettin’ off is not going to make things any easier, and will put unnecessary pressure on you, making it feel like orgasming is a task. I love a good to-do list, but you don’t want your pleasure to feel like a chore. Take it slow, try to clear your mind, and remind yourself that in the end, you’re just trying to have a good time.

Ambiance is key

This one might seem too simple or obvious, but...set the scene to get you in the mood. Remember those mental blocks we were talking about? Sometimes the right environment can help you overcome all of that negativity. For instance, I make playlists of songs from my favorite sultry vixens, and then dance to them by candlelight. Is it a bit too much? Maybe–but it works. Figure out what makes you feel sexiest and most comfortable, and get into it!

When to seek medical advice

If your issue stems from a chemical change, talk to your doctor about how medication might be affecting your sex drive. Your mental health should definitely take priority, but it’s possible there might be other options available to you that won’t hit your serotonin levels so hard.

Toys, toys, toys (and a little lube)

Now remember, you don’t have to do this alone! I’m not talking about partners per se, but it doesn’t hurt to have an extra hand. Toys and gels can be just the help you need to get yourself over the hill and into that beautiful, glowing warm light waiting for you.

Increase sensitivity:

Jolt Gel will give you that extra physical sensation boost that will help keep your mind on your pleasure centers. A little goes a long way with these gels, so be sparing with your dabs. While we’re on sensation play, take a peek at Tsk, a dual-ended paddle that’ll help you feel the blood rushing under your skin. It will make you more sensitive to touch, prompting you towards the best kind of sensory overload.

For a vibrator that’ll have you asking, “where have you been all my life,” check out Bender. It’s super convenient to use because it bends to the shape of your body, so you don’t waste any time once your mood is peaked. Speaking of self-care, Bender is waterproof, so run yourself a nice bubble bath, queue up your favorite Frank Ocean tracks, and take some time for yourself. Sometimes finding your g-spot takes few tries, so it’s great that Bender allows for customized and targeted precision. Plus, you can bend it for clitoral stimulation at the same time (or alone).

Lastly, remember that orgasms are awesome, but there are also a lot of deeply satisfying sexual experiences that don’t necessarily cross that threshold. It’s not always endgame. Be patient with yourself and your body. Come what may, right?