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The 7 Rules for Gifting a Vibrator

The 7 Rules for Gifting a Vibrator

Okay, WARREN SAPP, since we all seem to be a bit confused over when it is and is not appropriate to gift a vibrator, here are 7 simple etiquette rules that literally anyone can follow (yes, even YOU, Matt Lauer). 

Rule #1: NOT AT WORK

Never gift a vibrator to someone in a work environment. This is coming from someone who literally runs a vibrator company. Repeat: in a professional workplace, vibrators are not an acceptable gift.
  

Rule #2: YA GOTTA BE CLOSE FRIENDS

If you are CLOSE FRIENDS, then it might be okay to gift a vibrator! But we're talking bestie close. Like, you-text-each-other-whenever-you-have-a-great-(or horrific)-hookup close. 


Rule #3: HAVE A CONVO FIRST 

Yes, talking about this stuff can feel awkward, and yes, we all want to surprise people with the perfect gift. But consent is SO MUCH MORE IMPORTANT. If you haven't talked as friends or as partners about vibrators and sex toys before, have the conversation first and feel it out. 

Rule #4: IF BUYING FOR YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER, MAKE IT A WE THING, NOT A ME THING

If you're not sure what your partner would like, a great alternative to buying them a vibrator is buying them a gift card so that you can pick out something together. Shopping online together for a vibe can be a turn on in itself. 

Rule #5: YOU CAN BUY A VIBE FOR A FAMILY MEMBER

If your family is the type of family that is okay talking about sex, a vibrator can be an acceptable gift. Ideally, all families would be this way, but it can be tough. Truthfully, I was not born into a super sex positive family, but starting Unbound kind of forced my family to talk about it. Although it was awkward at first, I've now gifted vibrators to most of my family members, and they love it. So, you can gift a vibrator to a family member–just be prepared to talk about it with them, too. 

Rule #6: YOU CANNOT GIFT A VIBRATOR AS A JOKE

No. no. no. no. no. You cannot buy a vibrator as a "gag gift"...EVER. Because 1) female sexuality is not funny and 2) you're going to make yourself look like an asshole. 

Rule #7: YOU CAN GIFT VIBRATORS FOR BRIDAL SHOWERS AND BACHELORETTE PARTIES SO LONG AS IT ISN'T A PUBLIC GIFT OPENING IN FRONT OF THE FAMILY

Yes, it might be your bestie's bridal shower and you got her some bomb lingerie and an amazing vibe she's going to love, BUT, you need to double check to see if her family's going to be there, as well as if her fiancé's family is going to be there. Even if she's kewl and excited about it, the family might not be. In which case, slip her the gift before or after the party. 

THE NET TAKEAWAY:

What I will say is this: in the three years I've worked on Unbound, I've gifted more vibrators to my friends than I can count. Each time I gift one, I ask in advance if it's okay and I've never had a problem (or an unhappy customer, tbh).

The truth is that gifting a vibrator has more to do with the relationship you have with the recipient than it does with the vibrator itself. Don't ever gift a vibrator to someone if you think it might offend or upset them. And if you aren't sure: JUST ASK! 



 

 

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