When it comes to the Great Back Doors, there is more than one way to explore. Especially if you’re new to anal play, there are many methods that vary in intensity to help you build up your confidence to go deeper. 

All that being said, the end-all, be-all of anal isn’t penetration (by penis or toy), and depending on your preference, these tactics can either play a supporting role in your sex or be the main event. Whether you choose to do these alone or with a partner, one thing you should always include in your anal play is lube, and lots of it. 

Massage 

The hole, not the whole of anal play. Many find massaging the area around the anus, especially the perineum (the space between the anus and the vulva or scrotum), to be especially pleasant due to the concentration of nerves in that area. This can be done with your hands and fingers or a vibrator if you want a more localized, intense sensation. Any vibrator for this works, but we think our Pep vibrator would work great due to its small size and a wide variety of intensities. 

These massages can be done internally as well. You can use anal beads, which are meant to be inserted and pulled out at varying speeds, or vibrating plugs (like Shimmy) to give yourself or a partner an internal massage. 

Oral

Mouth-to-anus play, more commonly known as rimming, is the act of using or mouth and/or tongue on, in, or around the anus. If you plan on rimming, be sure to use a dental dam to prevent the transmission of STIs.

Penetration 

When it comes to penetration, whether by a penis or dildo, the most important thing to consider — even more than your pleasure — is comfort. Use a generous amount of lube (water-based if you’re using condoms or silicone toys) and go slow. If you’re using a dildo, consider how the size and material might affect your experience. Our midsized silicone dildo, Pogo, is soft, slightly curved, and great for beginners and seasoned users. 

If you’re interested in a more rigid dildo, Gemini and Stellar are made of solid borosilicate glass and provide a fullness many find pleasant. Due to its material, you canexperiment with temperature play by submerging them in warm or cool water for a heating or cooling effect. Fun! 

Plugs

Butt plugs aren’t mean to be pumped in and out like a dildo, but rather are inserted into the anus and provide a sense of fullness. Many like to wear a plug during vaginal sex to heighten that experience. Our silicone, nonmotorized plug, Nudge, is a great way to ease into that, or you can level up with Shimmy, our larger, vibrating plug. 

 

Regardless of which way to you decide to play, there's no wrong place to start. Just remember: clear bowels, full lube, can't lose. <3