Welcome to the Unbound Guide to Anal Play! Just so we're all on the same page, we like to roll anal sex and any other types of anal stimulation under the umbrella term "anal play" in order to be more inclusive and to open the meaning up a bit. Whether you're new to everything here or just looking to brush up on backdoor pleasure, we're glad you're here.
Let's lay down some ground rules to start, just because you're curious about stimulating a certain area of the body, doesn't mean you need to engage in every activity under the sun that has to do with that part. You might be interested in some level of anal penetration, like a finger or a small plug but not interested in using something larger or thrustier (not a word but you know what we mean). There's nothing wrong with that. Everyone has their own tastes, preferences, and speeds. If you're a solo explorer, anal play can be a really great way to explore your pleasure without a partner. If you're exploring with a partner, make sure you communicate your interests and boundaries and understand the boundaries set by your partner.
Let's talk pain: stay away from any anal numbing creams. You need to be able to assess pain and discomfort because it’s your body’s way of signaling when something is too much. Numbing creams can make you more susceptible to anal tearing and injury because you won’t know when to stop. It’s important to learn how to work with your body and take it one step at a time. One of the most important things we can understand about our bodies is how to read pleasure and pain.
The anus is not self-lubricating like the vagina, so you'll always want to use lube. We recommend a gentle water-based lube like Jelly. If you're totally new to anal play or it's been a while, start small and start slow.
Will there be poop?
It’s safe to say that whenever an instrument enters an orifice on the body, some remnants might be present when said instrument is removed. Ear wax, discharge, saliva, boogers–if something is going in, chances are, a little extra might come out too. It is normal and not something to be embarrassed or ashamed of. You poop, we poop. If you’re worried about germs associating with using anal play, consider using a condom or gloves and remember to wash your toys thoroughly after use with warm water and mild soap.
Empty your bowels 12-24 hours before to avoid any extra pressure
Avoid high-fiber foods or poo-inducing foods. Don’t fast either.
A little soap and water to clean up in advance.
Don’t cross-contaminate. If something has been used for anal play, consider it out of play for further use until properly cleaned.